Somewhere in the past it was “expected” that men knew how to do all the “manly” thing. This includes things like changing tires, fixing things around the house, “making” stuff out of wood, and lifting weights. And if you couldn’t do these things, you were looked at as a less of a man.

Although times have changed, this stigma hasn’t completely gone away. Here’s the deal, regardless of gender, people know how to do different things based on life experiences. Just because you haven’t had the chance to learn something yet, doesn’t mean your any less “manly”. Let me tell you a story:

It all started out in college as I was pulling into the parking lot in a hotel with my good friend Lauren. Yes Lauren is a female, which will prove my point in a second. I was about to take my first personal trainer certification test down in Miami (we were living in St. Pete at the time still). My tire blew and needed to be changed. I was a nervous wreck already having to take my test in the morning for something I was super passionate about, and didn’t want to deal with this now on top of it. Luckily I had my trusty friend Lauren there as she just started changing my tire in the parking lot.

I didn’t know how to change it or didn’t have the confidence in myself to do it all alone. At the time I felt embarrassed and like everyone that could see me was laughing at me. I wasn’t taking the lead in doing a thing every man “should” know how to do, right? But, regardless of who did it, “we” got it changed (yes I did help!), I got a good night sleep without having to worry about my tire, and passed my test in the morning! That is just one example of my short fallings (yes I’m short also) of knowing how to do basic things men are “supposed to be able to do”.

But, while I may not be able to change a tire, many other men do not know how to properly lift weights. (Another thing a man is “supposed” to do). The one thing I spent the most of my adult life learning and perfecting my technique and coaching skills is lifting weights. That is the area I can HELP men out. Sometimes it’s helping them with form. Sometimes it’s helping spot them during a heavy lift. And sometimes it’s just helping them streamline what a program should look like instead of just going to the gym and doing “everything and anything”.

I am here to say it’s ok to ask for help from a strength coach in designing, implementing and executing a good strength program. Sometimes we have to put down our “macho-ism” and ask for help in areas that we need it or don’t specialize in. I’ve had to ask for help many many times when I needed something done in the gym or even putting together a piece of equipment. We as men can’t be good at all handy things and it is ok to ask for help sometimes.